The Secret To my confidence - ft. Olga Intimates

The Secret To my confidence - ft. Olga Intimates

How many times have you actually looked at yourself naked?

Not in a sexual way, or with the company of another.

Not in a judgmental, let’s fix this and that kind of way.

With all those factors taken into consideration…how many times have you looked at yourself in the mirror naked?

 

The way I speak about, is the way in which you stand in front of the mirror, a nervous stance…almost as if you are introducing yourself to yourself. A glance of a handshake, a head nod to acknowledge who presents itself to yourself.

I never looked at myself that bare, until I was 27. For a very long time, the mirror was a false sense of cultural reality. It served as proof of the mental images of myself that the ones who needed to learn to love me, superimposed on me.

Then in one of those cliché life moments, I read something that said that you had to learn to love your bare self, to learn to love your true self.

The first time I looked in the mirror naked, I battled with re-constructive thoughts. But in the truth of it all, I was introducing myself to myself, the way as a temporary way of which I hoped to see myself.

It wasn’t easy…but every morning, I would stop in front of the mirror…stark naked and talk to myself. Saying things of affirmation that went beyond the surface, and in that motion I began to teach myself to see myself.

I would stand in the mirror, false perceived imperfection and tell myself things like.

“You kicked ass at work yesterday”

“You learned some really great things from the article you read yesterday”

“That conversation you had yesterday proved how effin smart you really are”

“The painting you made that hangs in the hallway is actually quite amazing”

Gosh what a change it made. I felt like I had made a new friend, who I could talk to about anything.”

I learned to start to see myself not for my outward beauty, but for the inward beauty that I myself wished others would have the patience to experience. Gosh, how was I hoping for others to see the inside, smart ass, sassy but intelligent me…when I never even knew who that was.”

 

Today,I look in the mirror and have conversations. Yes sometimes I still say things like, “okay stretch mark…Ive never met you before…at least not in that place”…but then I will say things like “Welcome, you may not be here long, but we embrace you while you are here…and I promise not to hate you.” If you have a roommate, this might be super weird to do…but try it. I promise. I did it for 90 days. Now I don’t see myself in the same way. I am not ashamed of me. I kinda like me. And what happens when I like me? Everyone else starts to notice that I carry myself differently. There Is no hiding things that are there. It’s a kind of, hey this is me…don’t like me….move on then.  

Today,I look in the mirror and have conversations. Yes sometimes I still say things like, “okay stretch mark…Ive never met you before…at least not in that place”…but then I will say things like “Welcome, you may not be here long, but we embrace you while you are here…and I promise not to hate you.”

If you have a roommate, this might be super weird to do…but try it. I promise. I did it for 90 days. Now I don’t see myself in the same way. I am not ashamed of me. I kinda like me.

And what happens when I like me? Everyone else starts to notice that I carry myself differently. There Is no hiding things that are there. It’s a kind of, hey this is me…don’t like me….move on then.

 

Part of loving myself has been investing in things that make me comfortable enough to run around on a photoshoot baring my own skin. As you look through the photos, you will notice the bra I was wearing. I figured that while we are on the topic of loving the skin we have, I could discuss what I put under my clothes. When it comes to bras I am not big on push up or cleavage etc...for me it is all about support and comfort. I recently came across a brand Olga Intimates, who specialize in plus friendly bras. Basic colors, lace styles and even sexy cuts as well as minimizers. I am a more basic black bra girl and literally wear their brand every single day. The support is amazing and the straps are nice and thick (which goes a long way if your girls always need the extra help). I have linked some of my favorite styles below. They run true to size and are available at an amazing price starting around $45. The bra I have on is the back smoothing Balconette bra, which comes in handy especially when I have fitted tops on. I also own the no side effects contour bra which I use when I have a lower cut top but still want the same support and comfort. Have a look below, and lets all have the confidence to prance around in our bras. :-)

Part of loving myself has been investing in things that make me comfortable enough to run around on a photoshoot baring my own skin. As you look through the photos, you will notice the bra I was wearing. I figured that while we are on the topic of loving the skin we have, I could discuss what I put under my clothes.

When it comes to bras I am not big on push up or cleavage etc...for me it is all about support and comfort. I recently came across a brand Olga Intimates, who specialize in plus friendly bras. Basic colors, lace styles and even sexy cuts as well as minimizers. I am a more basic black bra girl and literally wear their brand every single day. The support is amazing and the straps are nice and thick (which goes a long way if your girls always need the extra help). I have linked some of my favorite styles below. They run true to size and are available at an amazing price starting around $45. The bra I have on is the back smoothing Balconette bra, which comes in handy especially when I have fitted tops on.

I also own the no side effects contour bra which I use when I have a lower cut top but still want the same support and comfort.

Have a look below, and lets all have the confidence to prance around in our bras. :-)


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