Does This Dress Make Me Look Big...And Other Questions

"You probably shouldn't wear that, It makes you look big."

"That dress makes you look big, maybe it is the color?"

"I don't know why, but I don't like that dress on you. It makes your back look weird"

"This dress is too short for someone with big thighs"

Okay, and what about this one? This post is my rebellious response to something that has bugged me for a very long time. But recently a mini event sparked a conversation with myself and plus size blogger/model Denise Mercedes. What had happened was (:-))... I recently wore a yellow dress in one of my posts and received a few comments about looking "big" in it. I kind of contemplated taking the post down, but those shoes were too hot to waste. We talked about really owing our bodies and dressing to please no one else, or reduce ourselves to the standards that make someone else feel comfortable.

Here is the challenge: when you are bigger, It feels like the whole world thinks they are looking out for you when they make comments about what you have on, what you are eating, and basically all your actions. But face it, we play a part in it too. They say if you are not ready for the answer, do not ask the question. Think back to the last time you put on an outfit... did you ask someone's opinion, did you ask if it made you look big, did you ask if you looked okay? The truth is, we live in a world where we cannot function without other's approval. 

So from now on, challenge yourself to live without seeking anyone's opinion. If you see a dress that YOU like, and you put it on and YOU feel great about it...then walk out of the house in it and strut like your father built the road.

Now that is out of the way, we can talk about the actual dress. I truly believe that being a blogger does not mean that you have to know how to put every single piece together, or every trend and latest designer. I am lucky that my sister is a stylist and has dressed me since I was a little girl. But I also love when I find/virtually meet other women out there who inspire me. This outfit was fully inspired by Marche Robinson. I always say when I grow up I want to be like her. She has a certain confidence in her style and looks, which is not overpowering, but rather calming. Marche...this one is for you boo! 

I would also like to point out that although these shoes from Jcrew are sold out, I found them on ebay for $11. (The seller was probably drunk).

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